While we all like the idea of a spontaneous roll in the hay, when it comes to anal sex, it pays to be prepared. Planning your anal experience will make sure that it is the most pleasurable and fun experience it can be for both partners.
Use this comprehensive step-by-step guide to learn how to prepare for anal sex.
1. Talk with your partner
Before you get down to business, it’s important to have a chat with your partner about anal sex. This will help you both understand each other’s expectations and desires, and make sure that you’re on the same page. It’s also a good opportunity to talk about any concerns or reservations either of you may have.
After all, anal sex is not for everyone. Some people find it uncomfortable or even painful. However, if both you and your partner are intrigued by the idea of anal play, it can be a fun and exciting way to spice up your sex life.
Trying anal masturbation is the best way to figure out your likes and dislikes, and get comfortable with the feeling of having something in your butt, before the big day.
When you’re alone, you can go at your own pace and experiment with different types of stimulation until you find what feels good. And who knows, you might even discover that you enjoy anal masturbation more than anal sex!
Anal masturbation can be done with fingers, anal toys, or a combination of both. Just remember to use lots of lube.
Here’s how to get started: Apply lube to your fingers, anus and/or your chosen toy. Start with your fingers, slowly insert them into your bum, and begin experimenting with different motions. Alternatively, if you’re using a toy, gently press it against your anus and begin slowly pushing it inside. Experiment with different speeds and depths until you find what feels good.
3. Consider an anal training kit
An anal training kit is a great way to help you get used to the feeling of anal stimulation. The kit usually comes with three different sized plugs, so you can gradually increase the size as you become more comfortable. It’s also a good idea to use lube with your training kit, as this will help reduce any discomfort.
Start with the smallest plug and work your way up at your own pace. Once you’re feeling comfortable with the sensation, you can start experimenting with different types of anal play, like anal beads or a vibrating butt plug.
Anyone who’s ever had anal knows that there’s always the potential for things to get a little… messy. But, there’s no need to let this deter you from enjoying some backdoor fun – there are plenty of things you can do to avoid any unwanted surprises.
First, it’s important to make sure you’re clean before getting down to business. A quick shower will do the trick. Clean around and inside your anus with warm water and your finger. For a more thorough job, you may also choose to use an anal douche to clean out your rectum.
You should also use the toilet about half an hour before you engage in anal sex. This may seem like a lot of work, but it’s worth it when you consider the alternative.
And if you do see some poop? Don’t stress about it. This is supposed to be fun after all, so if it happens, try to laugh it off. It might help to talk or joke about it beforehand with your partner too.
4. Make sure you have supplies on hand
Now that you’re all squeaky clean, it’s almost time for the fun to begin. But do you need any additional supplies to make this happen?
You guessed it, lubricant is an absolute essential! Lube is gonna make the whole process much more pleasurable for everyone involved.
There are anal lubes designed specifically for anal play – these lubes are thicker so you don’t have to reapply as often.
If you don’t have anal lube, then silicone-based lube is probably going to be your next best option because it doesn’t absorb into the skin, so you don’t have to reapply as often. But do be careful because it doesn’t come out of sheets and clothing very easily, so maybe throw down a towel for this one.
Toys are an optional bit of fun if you’re feeling up to it. Toys can be handy to help you get in the mood and get everyone involved aroused and ready to go. The more hot and heavy you get beforehand, the better it will be for you.
So you’ve learnt how to prep for anal. You’ve had the chat with your partner, you’ve done your alone-time research, you’re clean and ready to go, and you’ve ordered your lube, condoms and douche. Now what? Now it is time for the fun part!
Now that you’re mentally and physically ready, how do you begin? Starting with foreplay is a good way to ensure you’re both in the mood. Don’t be shy and get the bum involved early with some rubbing, fingering or rimming.
Now that you’re both rearing to go, whether it’s a penis or a dildo, remember to take it slow to begin with. Let yourself or your partner adjust to the new sensations and bigger size without feeling overwhelmed. It’s very important to keep the communication up during this part, making sure what you are doing feels good for both of you, and making sure to adjust as you go to keep it that way.
Once you’re both comfortable and feeling good, there are some great anal sex positions you can try, some that are almost guaranteed to help you reach anal orgasm. We have collated a list of the best anal sex positions from beginner- to expert-level, for when you’re ready to level up your anal game.