5 Tips for Introducing Sex Toys to Your Relationship
Our official partnership with Married at First Sight (MAFS) for their 2022 season aims to break the stigma surrounding the use of sex toys with and without a partner, while highlighting they can be seen as a pleasure ally rather than something to be intimidated by.
With the season now well underway, the show has just revealed its sexiest Intimacy Week ever. Introducing toys to your relationship is the perfect way to build pleasure-positive sexual connections with one another, but for some it can feel super daunting.
Your partner and their feelings are of course always at the forefront of your mind, especially when it comes to decisions that can affect the both of you and your intimacy. Sexual intimacy is a major part of any relationship, and there’s no right or wrong way to be intimate.
How do I introduce sex toys to the bedroom?
1. Communication is key
MAFS’ 2021 season highlighted the concerns of many that a sex toy is a replacement of them in the bedroom when contestant Alana Lister’s Lelo Sona clitoral stimulator caused major on-screen controversy with her husband, Jason. Dubbed the “the enemy,” Jason wanted nothing to do with the must-have vibe.
Firstly, if you’re considering introducing a vibrator into your relationship, make sure you’re comfortable using sex toys alone and talking about it with others so you can clearly tell your partner what you want and why.
At Wild Secrets we like to think of vibrators and pleasure products as a teammate and a relationship enhancer. People can be apprehensive to introduce toys into their relationships out of fear of being replaced, but that is certainly not the case!
It’s our hope that the inclusion of sex toys in MAFS’ 2022 season empowers Australians to celebrate pleasure while strengthening erotic connections and sexual compatibility.
At Wild Secrets we like to think of vibrators and pleasure products as a teammate and a relationship enhancer.
2. Talk to your partner before bringing a sex toy into the bedroom
This year, MAFS’ Intimacy Week incorporates sex toys into their exercises as they look at ways for the couples that have just married each other at first sight to increase their intimacy and accelerate their connection during the eight-week experiment.
Bringing toys into the bedroom is a great way to connect as it creates an open and honest dialogue surrounding sex, pleasure, and what each partner’s likes and dislikes, wants and needs are.
You want to have this chat before you bring anything to the bedroom, though! Talk about the positives of sex with your partner and explain how a vibrator wouldn’t replace them, but rather, enhance your relationship and increase your pleasure together.
If you’re nervous to start the conversation, try relating it to a tv show or movie with a scene featuring sex toys and ask your partner how they felt about it.
3. Enjoy a solo self-love session first
Have a go using a toy alone first to get a feel for it and explore which sensations you enjoy. Debrief about your experience after, the safer and more relaxed you both feel, the better.
Discuss your likes and dislikes so your partner can please you exactly how you want and vice versa. It’s also helpful to establish any rules together about how you do and don’t want your toy or toys to be used.
Once you’re both ready, experiment together to discover what lets both of you give and receive pleasure.
If your partner still isn’t ready, respect that. It might not be the right time now, but they may reconsider in the future. Trying out a spicy new sex position or two is another great way to shake up your routine. Check out our article on the best sex positions for cheeky ideas…
And, you can always continue with your solo sessions in the meantime!
4. Indulge in a sexy shopping trip together
Begin by browsing for toys together, we have the largest range online and the best prices around, so your options are truly endless!
Simply looking at all the delicious toys you have available to you can be a massive turn on, so don’t be afraid to point out something you’d like to try.
While it might be tempting to go big, we recommend starting small and working your way up to bigger or more complicated products.
While it might be tempting to go big, we recommend starting small and working your way up to bigger or more complicated products.
5. Talk about your experience afterward
Keep your communication flowing! As with your solo session, debriefing afterwards is important to ensure you both feel safe, happy, and satisfied.
This experience should enhance your relationship and not hinder it. If your partner is uncomfortable or unsure about your experience, talk about what they didn’t like about it and why.
When you’re ready to try again, keep these things in mind so you can take your play to the next level while being respectful of your partner.
Not sure where to start when introducing toys to your relationship? Check out some of our favourite options below.
Best toys for bedroom adventures
We-Vibe Chorus Wearable Couples Vibrator
This wearable and adjustable couple’s vibrator is designed for clitoral and g-spot stimulation, and is a unique U-shape that is easily fitted to each beautiful body. It can be used with the We-Connect app for sharing control wherever you are in the world, as well as custom vibe patterns.
Simply cycle through the 10 powerful vibration functions using the app or remote – the tighter you squeeze, the stronger the vibrations. Penis owners also benefit from the vibrations during penetration so it’s a super fun one for everyone.
Lelo Sona 2 Cruise Sonic Wave Clitoral Stimulator
Meet pleasure perfected. This luxurious clitoral massager delivers fast yet gentle sonic waves to stimulate your entire clitoris, even the parts you can’t see!
Ex-MAFS contestant Alana Lister loves hers so much that she couldn’t be without it for the duration of the show’s 2021 season, but unfortunately her husband, Jason was not as big a fan. The Lelo Sona 2 Cruise is the perfect teammate to take your bedroom game to the next level.
Lelo Gigi 2 G-Spot Vibrator
Gigi 2 features a curved and flattened tip to accurately target your g-spot while channeling powerful yet quiet vibrations, with eight different patterns to explore.
Satisfyer Teaser Finger Vibrator
Perfect for all your erogenous zones, this handy little vibrator loops over your finger to make finding those sweet spots a breeze.
Explore 12 settings of powerful vibration whether solo or partnered, with easy-to-use and intuitive button controls.
Lovense Lush 3 App Controlled Vibrating Bullet
This cute little bullet has been made famous by OnlyFans content creators, and is great for solo or partnered use.
A powerful g-spot vibe featuring a fixed tail to stay in place, three levels of deep and rumbly vibration and up to ten different patterns. Connect via Bluetooth to the Lovense app for even more features, including sound or music activation and syncing to music.
The app also offers the ability to control the Lush 3 from short range, or from anywhere in the world when connected to the internet so your partner can take your pleasure into their own hands.
Sexy Lingerie
Lingerie is another essential addition to your boudoir, adding to the romance and giving the wearer a sexy pop of confidence.
With so many styles from babydolls to matching bra sets to bodysuits and more, you’ll easily find the perfect design for you.
Toys for bedroom solo adventures
Wild Secrets Kiss Bullet Vibrator
This unisex bullet vibrator is small but mighty, with ten independent vibration functions to explore.
Crafted with a silky silicone coating, Kiss feels dreamy against the skin and is perfect for stimulating any and all external hot spots with its rounded tip for targeted stimulation, or the straight sides for broader coverage where you want it most.
Satisfyer Pro 2
Now this clitoral stimulator is a must-have for any solo or partnered session, it’s a worldwide best-seller for good reason!
Exclusively available in matte black at Wild Secrets, the Satisfyer Pro 2 is designed to help women achieve quicker, more intense and even multiple orgasms by delivering touch-free clitoral stimulation with unique air pulses.
Wild Secrets Crave Thumping & Vibrating Masturbator
Those with a penis will absolutely love Crave. Featuring seven thumping and 14 vibration functions, a silky soft inner sleeve satisfies and massages in all the right places.
Plus, it’s waterproof for pleasure beyond belief in or out of water.
Wild Secrets understands the importance of using sex toys to enhance connection in a relationship, and strongly advocate for their use not only in the lives of couples, but in the personal wellness of individuals too.
The introduction of sex toys to the 2022 season of Married at First Sight is just another step towards empowering and celebrating the sexual journey of fun loving adults everywhere.
As always, feel free to contact our friendly Customer Service team via phone, email or live chat for expert advice on any toys to spice up the bedroom.
