Realistic dildos can be a welcome addition to your naughty drawer, whether you’re new to sex toys or an experienced user, single or coupled, and male or female, regardless of sexual preference.

Dildos let you experience the feeling of being penetrated when and how you want, in positions and scenarios that may not otherwise be possible, and with different shapes and sizes. They help you discover what you find most pleasurable.

But with the number of options ever-increasing, what is the best realistic dildo? It depends on your needs and wants.

The best realistic dildo for your meets your requirements on important features...

Do you want the feeling of fullness delivered by a thick dildo or more accurate massaging of an area, such as the g-spot, by a slimmer toy? Dildos 1.2 inches wide or narrower are a good beginner’s option.  

Dildo length and width are often related – the longer the shaft, the wider it is. However, there are long and slim or short and thick dildos available. Dildos seven inches or shorter are generally easier for beginners to handle. 

The material used to make a dildo can significantly affect how realistic it is regardless of appearance.

Realistic feel materials are elastomer-based with a soft, smooth, flexible and lifelike feel. However, they have a rubbery smell and taste. Being porous, they’re also difficult to clean.

Silicone dildos are silky smooth, flexible, odourless and tasteless, and range from soft to firm in density. They are non-porous and easy to clean but can vary in purity so it’s best to choose trusted brands.

For more information, read our Guide to Sex Toy Materials.  

Some realistic dildos can look similar but deliver different sensations because of design details such as big, small or circumcised heads, curved or bent shafts, and heavily veined textures. Beginners are best advised to keep it simple and experiment as they build experience.

If you want added versatility from your dildo, a suction cup base can be the answer. A suction cup lets you mount your dildo to almost any smooth, flat surface for hands-free use. Many are also harness-compatible so you can enjoy role play and partner penetration too.

Generally, larger dildos are heavier. Check the dildo weight will be practical for you, especially if you plan to hold it for an extended period, or it has a suction cup base that you will adhere to a wall (so the dildo is horizontal) or use with a harness. 

Realistic dildos vary widely in price, and while some less expensive options are very lifelike, high-end models generally boast better materials and longevity.

The best realistic dildo is one you find comfortable, pleasurable and easy to use. Ensure its features meet your needs and wants without sacrificing any that are important to you.

Remember, your dildo collection needn't comprise just one! You can gradually build it up so you have options to suit your changing desires and playtime situations.

Once you have your new dildo, remember to clean and store it as directed by the manufacturer, and use with plenty of compatible lubricant for maximum pleasure. For more information, read our tips on Caring for Your Sex Toy and Guide to Personal Lubricant.

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