Hayley Sproull on Sex dot Life, Undie Parties, and Being a Cat

The gorgeous, talented, and insanely funny Hayley Sproull visited Wild Secrets HQ and chatted to our Social Media Manager Matthew Lang about all things Sex.Life, comedy, and much more. Watch the full interview or scroll down for the highlights – including what we can expect from Sex.Life Season 3.

Note: the excerpt below has been edited for length and clarity.

Matt Lang: You’re everywhere right now – on stage, TV, and radio. Where will people have seen you? Or heard you?

Hayley Sproull: Well, I won Taskmaster New Zealand last year. I hosted Bake Off. I’ve done a bunch of comedy and hosting and TV and whatnot. But I’m also the co-host of Sex.Life which of course…

ML: Very excited to talk to you about all things Sex.Life.

HS: I know! And this sexual – I don’t know if it’s a wellness or liberation – journey I’ve been on was: Came off the pill, got horny, thought ‘Oh my god what a nice feeling. This is literally the best feeling of my life’. And that coinciding with Morgan Penn asking me to co-host a podcast with her.

On Sex.Life Seasons 1 and 2

Your role in the podcast is the straight-laced vanilla one to Morgan’s pleasure-seeking, kink-exploring persona. Is that true to life or is that what you took on to make the podcast work?

HS: Everything we do is authentic. There’s no performance.

Thinking about where I’m at today and thinking about episode 1, season 1 – I need to go back and see the journey in myself. From me being jaw on the floor that Morgan was humping the ground… Or was giving a blowjob in public. Or that she was asking me to put a butt plug in and then report back to a million people about how I found it, and how I was like: “Oh Morgan! I don’t know!” Now I’d be like, “Yep. What size?”

Is it difficult talking about sex on air, or getting your undies off in the studio?

Oh my god! It’s… I don’t know if I can even explain why but it’s not. I think it’s Morgan – the way she has such an open heart is so non-judgmental. She creates the environment.

I mean, she often comes into the studio, we light a candle, she spritzes some bloody energy spray that I’m like, ‘pfff okay’. You know, she sets the tone of all that. And it’s very inviting.

And of course at the top of Season 1 I had a yoni mapping so we’d already broken through a lot of barriers between her and I.

The Sex.Life homeplay

During the podcast you encouraged people to report in if they tried the homeplay and how that worked. Did you get a lot of messages?

HS: So many. Like actually unbelievable. Morgan gets more because people want to ask her questions. But we get so many DMs all the time.

What is it like to know that you’ve touched so many lives in New Zealand, Australia and around the world?

HS: Do you know if you’d asked me that question a couple of years ago I would have been like ‘ah, yeah, nah…’. Now I’m like, ‘Oh my god I see the impact’. I really see it. And I’ve really dropped in with how Morgan thinks about this. Sex.Life isn’t just some big spicy ‘ah ha ha’ podcast. It’s really changing people’s lives. And those are the messages we get. So we’re not just being like ‘we’re changing lives’, with no evidence. People message in about ‘I listened to this and it helped me release this’. Or ‘I’ve wanted to try that and I’ve never thought of it before’. It is an amazing feeling.

Was there ever a homeplay that came up where you were like, ‘No. Not ever. Not doing that. Not even for the podcast’?

HS: There’s two that immediately come to mind. One was the heart fucking. Where you had to… (laughs)

ML: Imagine the big phallus?

HS: Yeah. Imagine the thing and like [gestures in faux sexiness] with someone. And my partner and I just couldn’t deal with it. Like, we were not going to take it seriously. So luckily, I found a friend of mine who’s a hippie-dippie, yogi person and I was like: “Heart fuck me!”

The other one was when I had to put on the leather cat mask, and I took it too literally. I wasn’t being sexy, I was like full drama school role-playing. Like ‘meow’ and it wasn’t… I kind of missed the brief on it.

Honestly, I was trying so hard to throw myself all into the homeplay because it’s important. And I think people listening need to know that I’m not also an expert in these things. I’m the audience. I’m just the one asking questions.

ML: And also, it’s okay to not always like something or get it ‘wrong’?

HS: Exactly. And I think that’s the whole thing. Often you don’t know until you’ve done it. So why be like, “Oh, I’m not going to be a cat.” I might get down on my hands and knees and my cat mask on and be like “I’m a fucking cat!”

I was going to ask if you’ve touched on furries yet?

HS: No, I haven’t touched furries yet, though I did go to my first undie party. I went with Morgan and another friend. And I did look at the leather cat mask and think ‘if there was ever a time… it’s now’. But I didn’t put it on.

ML: I’ve never been to an undie party, I’ve jumped straight to the nude ones.

HS: I was about to say ‘Oh you should’, but okay, you’ve gone further! I feel like once you go to the undie party which they say is like, level one, you immediately want to go to level three.

James Lea: What’s an undie party?

HS: It’s like you go to a… it’s often hosted at sex clubs. And the undie party is just like going to the club with no clothes on but your undies. You can’t wear anything you’d go to a normal club in. And there’s no overt like sex acts happening.

ML: Depending on the undie party. My one you could but in discreet corners that they’d blocked off so it’s not in full view.

HS: I’ve definitely got to go to another one. My biggest concern was I had a really big… (laughs). Okay. Let’s just do it.

I had a really large pimple on my ass.

You know like one of the ones that comes up and you’re just like ‘What the hell is this?’

ML: Where did it come from? I’m too old for this?

HS: Yeah! Like, are you upset with me? Did I sit too long? And I said to Morgan, because I was wearing this like, a G thing, “Before we leave this hotel, you have to put concealer on this.”

Once you get there, you’re like, no one gives a fuck…

ML: But before…

HS: Yeah, I was like, we’re going to put concealer on it. Then I had about five espresso martinis. And then I woke up the next day and was like ‘Oh god. We didn’t cover the pimple.’ So that was just out the whole night!

Watch more: Morgan and Hayley talk about what happens in the grope tent

 

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On sex toys

What was your level of experience with sex toys before you jumped on board with Sex.Life?

HS: I had the regulars. Satisfyer Pros, your little buzzy boys, a couple of other little things. Anything towards the butt, I was like, ‘we’re not doing that’. And now I literally arrived in Australia with like a clinking, vibrating sack! Got the glass in there, ‘cause Morgan as part of season 2 gave me a toy that was a glass, hooked, like tentacle thing…

ML: It’s the curved wand with the tentacle kind of suckers on them? It’s by Pipedream.

HS: Yes! She gave it to me, and I was like, ‘not my cup of tea at all. That’s not really me’. And oh god. That thing and I have been on a journey. Like, I mean, we’ve really. It is number one!

What is it about glass toys that makes them so good?

HS: I think it’s the rigidity of it. And how much you can manipulate that with your hands.

ML: It’s surprising. You don’t expect it to feel anywhere near as good.

HS: No! I was like, why are you giving me this dud thing? Where’s all the bells and whistles? Where’s all the, the ‘bzzzzz’, like where is it?

And now I’ve made four friends buy it. Including my best friend. I was like ‘you’ve GOT to add this to the kit.’

And minds blown.

Watch more: We give Hayley a Squirting Centaur Dildo for…reasons.

 

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On relationship boundaries

You’ve mentioned your partner a couple of times on Sex.Life. What is it like trying to be open, honest and sharing, but also to a degree protecting his privacy?

We had a conversation about it. Because I was like, ‘I want to be open about my sex life. And that’s my choice to do so. But my sex life is also partially yours’.

Morgan and I actually had a good chat about it where I said, ‘look Aaron wants his privacy, and he doesn’t want me talking too much. So I’ll be able to mention that we’ve done something but maybe not all the finer details’. And then Morgan geared up the homeplay so that you can do it alone as well.

ML: That also really helps when there are people listening and they don’t have regular partners or that they want to go ‘Hey can you heart fuck me?’ to.

HS: Yes! I love that Morgan made it available for solos. So often when it was something quite intense I would do it by myself. And then if it was something silly – like the cat or whatever I was able to like kind of have fun with it in a way that didn’t have to be overtly sexual. And yeah protect his privacy and not reveal too much of his life.

Sex.Life season 3?

HS: I’m not allowed to talk about it yet, but if I was, I would say Morgan’s been on a series of journeys. So season 1 we see her going through the sex school and kind of discovering like, what is that all about. Season 2 we see her checking out the sexual landscape of New Zealand and having a little go at everything. Season 3 is about Morgan and her ultimate quest for love.

Long Schlong, Cowboy. What’s missing. Why is it not happening? Like how did this relationship to sex start for her? Where did it all begin? How did this relationship to love start? Who did she first fall in love with? Who did she first fuck? How did it all go?

So, we kind of go back to the beginning while Morgan tries to figure out: Why has she not found her person?

Where can people find you?

HS: I’m hayleysproull on Instagram. Trying Tiktok, but Tiktok’s hard! You can listen to Sex.Life anywhere you get your podcasts. You can listen to FVHZM which is my other podcast. Or I have a website, hayleysproull.com.

You can come to my house and knock on my door. You wouldn’t be the first…

ML (to camera): Please don’t do that.

HS: Someone did! They did a – they made a gag. We had a hand delivered letter in our mailbox one day and it said, ‘I’d like to Hayley Sproull you across the bed’.

The best bit was this guy left his number. And address. And full name.

So we’re sitting on this beanbag and my partner goes, ‘Look. ‘We got this thing, I didn’t want to tell you at the time. Didn’t want to freak you out…’

And I was like ‘Ew’.

We’re just sitting there, had a couple of glasses of wine. Aaron just rings him. ‘Hey mate, this is Aaron, Hayley Sproull’s partner’.

And the guy’s like ‘Oh, oh, oh…’

‘Yeah we’ve just received an interesting letter in our mailbox,’ he just like, rips into him.

Aaron was like ‘where did you get our address?’

He’s like, ‘Oh the electoral role.’

So I’m not on there anymore.

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Sex.Life Season 3 returns on the 4^th of June 2025. Catch up on previous seasons on your favourite podcast app, or see Season 2 uncut on Morgan Penn’s YouTube channel.